Just read another disabled person raging at our “allies.” She had a long list of instructions for them that didn’t make sense to me. I am disabled. I’m not sure exactly who these allies are but I wonder if their allegiance would withstand these outbursts.
A lot of well-meaning people would help a disabled person reach something on a store shelf, but as far as “allies,” I’m not sure there’s enough of those to comprise a category. The people you meet at events about inclusion and disability would probably be understanding and say the right things, but how many of the non-disabled ones are laboring on our behalf on a regular basis? Partners and family members of disabled people have their hands full. Some do work on access issues, etc., but may not have a ton of extra energy for whatever.
I read a similar list by a transgendered person raging at their allies.
If you are in a minority group like the two above, I wouldn’t mistake the well-meaning people you meet at special events for an army of acolytes. A list of enraged, unintelligible instructions for allies seems like it could be redirecting anger about life at the least scary target.